![]() Middle Child SyndromeĪs a middle child, it’s likely that you weren’t praised as much by your parents, since your parents have already been through the whole raising-a-child thing once. This can cause oldest siblings to either be very successful or cause them to be hindered by atelophobia. Even if their parents aren’t especially demanding, they will strive to please them in every way. ![]() As a result, oldest child syndrome sometimes involves some degree of perfectionism.įirst-born children tend to be very motivated, sometimes to the point of perfectionism. There’s also the fact that, since the oldest siblings grew up watching adults who know how to organize things and keep things clean, they want everything in their lives to be orderly as well. In his book The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are, author Kevin Leman said that he once went to a corporate seminar in which 19 out of the 20 CEOs in attendance were first-born children. Their confidence is also compounded by the fact that they don’t have any siblings around to tease them when they screw up and they’re usually taken especially seriously by their parents (who are first-time parents and often still trying very hard to figure out the whole parenting thing). The oldest sibling was around when there were only the parents to lead as an example, so they often have no trouble taking charge, being assertive, or acting as leaders in groups. Oldest Child Syndromeįirst-born siblings tend to be the most confident and self-assured of the bunch. As you read through, try not to get offended (spoiler alert: you only children are the most likely to get offended here), but instead take this as an opportunity for some self-reflection. In this article, I’ll go through the character traits commonly associated with each type of syndrome. After reading about the traits commonly associated with middle child syndrome, I would have to say that it rings fairly true in my case (or at least with how I see myself). ![]() Thus, the values and self-conception you learn as a child make you who you are as an adult. ![]() The general theory is that the family dynamic that you had as a child growing up can shape the way you interact with the world around you as an adult. These traits are generally grouped into oldest child syndrome, youngest child syndrome, middle child syndrome, and only child syndrome. However, there are certain personality traits that people tend to associate with certain positions within the family. Of course, no one’s personality is determined entirely by whether they have older siblings, younger siblings, or no siblings at all. Then, when you find out that they’re the oldest sibling in their family, your hindsight bias kicks in and you think, I knew it! I totally got that oldest-sibling vibe from them! Most of the time, however, it’s far more difficult to tell what kind of siblings a new acquaintance has. Other times, you’re absolutely positive that the person you’re talking to has no other siblings and has been the center of their parents’ attention for their entire life. Have you ever been around a group of new people and played a game where you try to guess how many siblings the other people have? Sometimes, people seem to give off a middle-child vibe.
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